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“Ignoring the SUV, you ask your Ex if you can have you son on Father’s day. This year, it doesn’t fall on your WEEKEND, but you’d still really like to spend it with your son.”

Please go and re-read that sentence and _then_ comment on it.

Haha, congratulations on losing all intellectual credibility by the second sentence.

“What is the father supposed to do? live for his ex-wifes whims and poor financial decisions?”

That’s the whole point of divorce. You are no longer responsible for her whims or poor financial decisions. And you should no longer concern yourself with such.

“Dad is not the only one who is pissed-off all the time.”

Of course not, Mom can be too. More importantly, the kids quite often are most pissed off of all, but the parents are usually too wrapped up in their own battle to notice.

“I’m a divorced man with three children who have a Deadbeat Mother.”

Understand that if she owes you child support, you will eventually get it. Pick your battles. Is it worth fighting with her now, letting the kids be exposed? (And even if you don’t let them see/hear the two of you fight, they pick up on all the negative energy.) Child support obligations can’t ever be dismissed; you’ll eventually get the money owed to you.

“Sure the children need finacial support to survive, but what they really need are a Mother and a Father who can support them emotionally.”

Not true. A child needs loving, supportive PEOPLE around him. It matters not if it’s a blood parent. That statement can’t possibly be legitimate when you consider adopted children, children who had one parent die or who were raised by aunts, uncles, grandparents, older siblings, etc., etc., who turn out just fine. In the latter half of the 20th century, lots of words and energy were expended bemoaning the loss of the extended family in favor of the nuclear family. Family is what you make of it, plan and simple.

“For starters, Father’s Day ALWAYS falls on a Sunday, so your little tale is bogus.”

What does Father’s Day have to do with Sunday? I could swear the post was refering to the father’s weekend, and not Sunday specifically,

“What’s the ex supposed to do? Keep herself down at the ex-hubby’s financial level so he won’t feel bad??”

What is the father supposed to do? live for his ex-wifes whims and poor financial decisions?

“And maybe the ex would be a lot easier to deal with if “dad” would stop being pissed off all the time”

Dad is not the only one who is pissed-off all the time.

I agree with the spirit of the original post. It was aimed at both parents.

I’m a divorced man with three children who have a Deadbeat Mother.

Sure the children need finacial support to survive, but what they really need are a Mother and a Father who can support them emotionally.

For starters, Father’s Day ALWAYS falls on a Sunday, so your little tale is bogus.

On to the next thing: What’s the ex supposed to do? Keep herself down at the ex-hubby’s financial level so he won’t feel bad??

YES, children need a paycheck. They need a roof over their heads, shoes on their feet, braces when the orthodontist says it’s really necessary, insurance for when they get sick or break appendages. Kids cost a LOT of money. If you thought you were going to get away with paying less when you got divorced, then you were huffing glue, or something.

Your ex’s new husband isn’t obligated to take care of YOUR children. If he does so, it’s because he’s a nice guy…probably nicer than you. No kid EVER wants to call the new guy “Dad,” and it’s bullshit to perpetuate such a myth.

In the state in which I live, family court judges advise BOTH parents to encourage and foster separate relationships with the child(ren), to not talk badly about each other and to make sure that the child(ren) have photos of the other parent in their bedrooms.

Lastly, contrary to this ranting post, the “system” doesn’t want people to get divorced and doesn’t want to deal with the mess divorce brings to most families. But since alleged “grown-ups” can’t manage their own lives and be decent to each other and their kids, the state is forced to get involved to ensure each child’s WELFARE.

Oh, and no, there is no doubt that children need piggyback rides and other loving moments. And maybe the ex would be a lot easier to deal with if “dad” would stop being pissed off all the time, put the bullshit behind him, and be a decent guy and offer to take the kids off her hands when its not his “weekend,” say like when the kids are sick, or she’s sick or arrange to pick the kids up after school, or whatever else might be helpful and exhibit a spirit of cooperation to the kids. Isn’t that better than always carrying around anger and resentment and a whole host of conspiracies about how the system is out to get you??